Have you ever seen a couple where it just looked like one person was head over heels while the other one appeared to be unhappy or indecisive? Have you ever been in a relationship that way? Unfortunately, I can answer yes to both of those questions.
One sided relationships seem to be more common than we may think and sometimes we find ourselves in them without even realizing it. However, no one deserves to experience the feeling of giving 150% while their significant other contributes close to nothing toward the relationship.
Let's look at 6 signs that identify whether a relationship is one sided or not.
6 Signs it's a One Sided Relationship
1. You're the one initiating everything (phone calls, texts, dates, etc)
If you're the only one reaching out to make contact, chances are, it's completely one sided. Have you ever had the feeling that if you didn't contact him/her then you both would just never communicate? I have definitely experienced that in the past and its a clear indication that you are more invested in the relationship than they are.
2. He/She is Unwilling to be Open & Vulnerable
A relationship should be a safe place where we can be open & transparent with our significant other and they can do the same with us. If you're in a relationship where you are always sharing your deepest thoughts, feelings, fears, etc. but they never allow you to see those layers of their heart, then there is alot that needs to be considered.
3. He/She Ignores the Problems in the Relationship
When you really care about someone, you want to see them happy and if there is a problem, you want to help them solve it. If the relationship is one sided, you're always ready and willing to make adjustments and adapt while the other person ignores any problem. This means when you present a concern or see adjustments that need to be made for the improvement of the relationship, he/she ignores it and doesn't really see it as a problem.
5. He/She is Unreliable & Not Trustworthy
If you're in a relationship and your significant other is unreliable, you are most likely in a one sided relationship. This means that they are often inaccessible and never there when you need them most. With this relationship they are most like not trustworthy either. However, he/she will often make you feel like they're putting in all of this hard work into the relationship and you're simply not seeing it. They fabricate your reality and try to make you feel guilty about overlooking all of their non existent effort.
6. You're not His/Her Priority
If he/she doesn't make time for you the same way you do for them, the relationship is one sided. If other things come before you, then you aren't a priority to him/her. This means, they'd rather hang out with their friends, play video games or do other things and never give you much of their time, leaving you consistently feeling lonely; if this is the case then the relationship is one sided.
Everyone deserves a relationship where they feel appreciated, desired and cared about. If you are in a one sided relationship, you have a right to walk away from that situation and prepare your heart for someone who is ready and willing to invest just as much as you are into a healthy relationship. You're worth it!
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