Lately, there has been a LOT of talk surrounding the Coronavirus/COVID-19. Many grocery stores are out of stock on products, and in some places, the shelves are completely bare. At the stores that do have products, there have been conversations, pictures and videos taken of long checkout lines that travel into the aisles, store fights for limited products, and abbreviated store hours. People have been so panicked that they've cleared all of the Lysol, hand sanitizer, toilet paper, water, and paper towels off the shelves! It's like the world has gone into hysteria!
Make Sure You Have Enough "Food"
There are many of us who chose not to hesitate in purchasing food and items to stock up in our homes. Don't forget that just like our bodies need the food we've stashed away in preparation, it's even more important to make sure that you store up the Word of God in your heart, so that your spirit is prepared and has what it needs! If you spend time daily reading the Bible and meditating on His Word, your spirit will be full of the Word. No matter what comes your way, you will be able to pull the Word out of your heart and speak, confess & believe what the Bible says.
So, Should We Be Afraid?
Absolutely not! While it is definitely important that we use wisdom and be prepared, we should not be scared. Yes, you want to make sure you wash your hands, make sure you have what you need to take care of your family, and stay up to date with what's going on. However, if you are a Christian, it is important that you stay full of the Word! It's important that you stay prayed up. It's important that you walk by faith and not fear. Meditate on Psalm 91. The God we serve is bigger, mightier, and more powerful than any virus, disease or calamity. The Bible says so many encouraging things related to the topic of fear. Here are a few of my favorites:
John 14:27 "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."
Isaiah 41:10 “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Joshua 1:9 "Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Matthew 6:34 "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
Psalm 118:6-7 "The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? The Lord is with me; he is my helper.”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
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Hey Lovelies! I'm baaaaack! I took a bit of a hiatus from blogging so that I could work on my Youtube Channel, Johnson Team Apparel Online Store and balance work and life and everything in between. Whew! I'm happy to be back to blogging though! I've missed you guys and I hope you've missed me too! If you're new here, WELCOME! :)
Recently, on my Youtube Channel, I shared How to Tell if a Man Wants You. If you aren't subscribed to my channel yet, I encourage you to pause what you're doing, and subscribe, so you can be up to date on my weekly videos!
So, how can you tell if a man really wants you? I'm glad you asked!
A man who is really interested in you and really wants you will do whatever it takes to make you his! I've seen it time and time again, in my own life as well as in the lives of others. Have you ever seen a man who is nonchalant about a woman for a while and then they break up, and not too long after that failed relationship, he's engaged to someone else? Crazy right? I always used to wonder how a guy could be so disinterested, nonchalant and apply little/no effort with one woman, and in a matter of weeks or months, be engaged to another woman.
The reason for this is that men know. They know when they want someone and they know when they don't. They know if they can see you by their side in the future or if you're just a short term type of woman. When a woman is a short term type of woman, she will find that he may not put in much effort or he may be slow to progress the relationship. However, when a man finds a woman that he is sure of, nothing can stop him from doing what it takes to make her his.
When I was single, I got to know plenty of men who were slow to progress the relationship, let me do all the work, didn't behave as if he was all in, made me play guessing games about his intentions, didn't keep his word, didn't spend much quality time with me, etc. Those situations always left me so frustrated. I remember one instance where I was talking to a guy for months before it fizzled out. Less than 6 months later, he had met someone new and proposed to her! I was stunned!
When it comes to my husband though, he showed me that he was all in from the beginning. He communicated clearly, didn't leave me guessing, stated his intentions, progressed our relationship, etc. My husband proposed to me 10 months after we started talking, (that's 7 months after we began courting).
Make no mistake about it, a man will do what it takes to make you his! He doesn't need help doing it, he isn't too shy, and it usually doesn't take him too long either. A man who wants you will make you his (if you let him, of course). So, if you have a man who is unclear and leaving you playing "Sherlock Holmes", it may be safe to consider that he may not want you THAT badly. Don't settle Sis! Believe God to send you his best in His perfect timing. Wait for the man who will do what it takes to make you his. After all, Jesus did it for you!
I wanted to take some to write a post for those who are saving themselves for marriage. That's right, this post is exclusively for virgins! This is a topic that is near and dear to my heart because I was a virgin until I married my husband at 28 years old. I know that sometimes you just need a bit of encouragement.
You Are NOT the Only One!
I remember feeling this way a few times and even now, I get comments from other people who feel the same way. Somedays, you feel like you're the only one that is single or the only one that is a virgin. However, I'm here to tell you that you are not alone. There are plenty of people who are committed to waiting until marriage to have sex. I know some personally, so be encouraged, knowing that there are others just like you, and they are experiencing the same things you are.
Is it Worth it?
YES! It is absolutely worth it! Don't get weary and don't give up because you are doing the right thing! You are special and rare and valuable. Carry yourself that way! You are priceless and you possess a great gift for your future spouse. I don't regret waiting one bit and if I had to go back and do it again, I would wait again. There is something so special about giving such a meaningful gift to your future husband. It's precious and it speaks volumes about your faithfulness to God and His word, and your love for your future husband.
But What If It's Not Easy?
If you are having a hard time with waiting, I'd encourage you to evaluate a few things. Take note of things you watch on TV/movies, what music and conversations you listen to and the people you are hanging out with. It's very important that you are careful with what enters your spirit through your eyes and ears. Music, movies, etc. will definitely impact your thoughts, behaviors and desires. Eliminating things that are sexual in nature will help a lot. Also, when you are out on a date, avoid compromising situations. Don't even allow yourself to be in a situation where you could be tempted to want to cross physical boundaries. This includes, being alone with the opposite sex in secluded, private locations, visiting his house alone, being out together late at night, getting too close/touchy, talking dirty, etc. Having boundaries in place will help make the wait a lot more smooth. Remember that God wouldn't ask anything of us that He knew we couldn't do. You can do this! With God, all things are possible.
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For those who don't know, I took quite a bit of a break from blogging because in 2018, I got married and relocated. However, I'm super excited to be back in a routine! As my husband and I prepare to celebrate 10 months of beautiful marriage, I figured it's the perfect time to write about how I prepared and allowed God to prepare me for my marriage.
Many people say that the first year of marriage is tough but what if I told you that doesn't have to be the case? While we are just about 2 months shy of our 1 year anniversary, I can say that it's been such an amazing journey! So, I'm going to share with you a few tips on how to prepare to have an amazing marriage.
1. Establish a solid relationship with God
This is super important. In order for anything to be successful, you need God. He should be at the center, the very essence of everything you do. It's important to have this relationship because it teaches you many things. My relationship with God helped me practice commitment and faithfulness through the highs and lows in life. It taught me submission. I learned how to slow down and listen. Yes, you can do all of these things with God. In my relationship with Him, I allowed Him to show me myself and change my character flaws and develop me into who He created me to be and He continues to do so. This is when you can learn what fruit of the spirit you need to grow more. Love, joy, peace, patience, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance are all things that are needed in a healthy marriage. You grow in these areas when you spend time with God and His Word and allow Him to work in your heart.
2. Adjust your mindset
If you want to be a spouse, you've got to begin to think like a spouse. In marriage, it's not all about you and you will not get your way all the time. I mentally prepared myself for these facts and worked to make the necessary adjustments before getting married. There is no room for selfishness in a healthy, godly marriage. You have to go into your marriage ready and willing to give, serve, love unconditionally and make sacrifices. Please do not go into it only thinking about what you want to receive.
3. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!
I cannot stress the importance of communication, enough! This is super important! You and your spouse will need to communicate about everything. Before getting married, you need to talk about your values, beliefs, boundaries, goals, vision, financial habits and so much more. Communication doesn't end after you say "I do". In marriage, you'll still need to talk about your feelings, strengths/weaknesses, celebrations/concerns, money, sex, daily schedules/plans, etc. Communication never ends, and as far as I'm concerned, you can't over-communicate. If you're stopping at the gas station before heading home, why not send a quick text letting your spouse know that? My husband, Ja'Van and I talk about everything- nothing is off limits.
I also want to note that the way you communicate is huge too. Our speech should be kind, gentle, patient and loving. In my house, we watch our tone and make sure we don't communicate with an attitude, silent treatments or clap-backs. We communicate with kindness, love and respect and anything opposite of that is unacceptable. The way that you communicate will either build your spouse up or tear him down. Your goal is to build him up always, and if you mess up, forgive and genuinely apologize quickly so you don't go to bed angry.
4. Be Intimate Daily
Yes, I recommend daily! However, intimacy means different things for different people. In essence, intimacy entails closeness, privacy and coziness and of course often times sexual intimacy. I believe that you make time for what is important to you. Spending time being close and private and even sexual with your spouse daily is very important, so be sure to schedule time for it each day. Yes, sometimes we have rough, long exhausting days and full time jobs and responsibilities but it's shouldn't be enough reason to not set aside time with your spouse. We don't allow "tired" to be an excuse to skip out on such an important time for us and our marriage, especially not early in a marriage.
So, those are my top 4 tips on how to have an amazing marriage! Of course, this is not everything but these are definitely ones that I believe are very key and make a big difference. I love getting questions so if you have questions or would like me to address certain topics in my blogs, let me know. You can send me a message here on my website or find me on IG: mrs.larissaj
I look forward to chatting with you again soon!
Hey Lovely, Happy New Year! I'm so excited to be writing a new blog! I took quite a bit of a break from blogging because I got married in 2018 and decided to focus on investing everything into my marriage. Today, however, it is on my heart to write about how I prayed for my husband long before I met him. I pray that this blesses you and anyone else who reads it! I created a Youtube video on this topic too, so feel free to check that out here. I'll be sure to make this blog more detailed.
To Journal or Not to Journal?
This decision is completely up to you but I have a tendency to write things down when I pray so that I can refer back to it when I need to. I kept a journal specifically for things related to my future husband. It was nothing fancy, just a hard cover notebook that I picked up from the store. In the journal, I included all my prayers to God for my husband as well as anything that I felt the Lord whisper to my heart. If you don't know how, it's important that you learn how to hear from God because this will be a game changer on your journey! If you'd like to see a blog or Youtube video on "How to Hear From God" let me know by commenting below or reaching out to me on Instagram @mrs.larissaj.
So, I started my journal in 2014, met my husband in person in 2017 and I got married in 2018 so this notebook has a lot of prayers in it. Now let's talk about the prayers.
Praying for Hubby
The very first page of my journal, I wrote a prayer to the Lord. Let me note that even though I write my prayers, I also pray them aloud because death and life are in the power of the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21) Prayers are life giving so you want to make sure you vocalize them.
In my prayer to God, I simply asked him to guide my every prayer and I asked that my journal be inspired by the Holy Spirit. I didn't want to just make up random things.
Each day that I prayed, I wrote a heading. One day, I prayed that the Lord would prepare me and strengthen my faith. Another prayer, was about my husband being prepared by God for me. Other prayers, were about his spiritual well-being, character, protection, integrity, mutual physical attraction, etc. Each time I prepared to pray, I got quiet before God and allowed Him to lead me in what I should pray for. I'd like to encourage you to be specific with your prayers and pray for all aspects of your future husband's life. This takes time so it's perfectly okay to pray over a span of days or even months or years in order to take your time and pray accurately and thoroughly. Choose one specific area to pray for each day.
Will this Work?
This absolutely worked for me! However, I think some prerequisites need to be met first. You first need to be a believer and have a personal relationship with Jesus. (Romans 10:9) You'll also want to work on strengthen your faith if you haven't done so already. (Again, let me know if you'd like to see this topic appear in my content in the future.) I struggled with faith in believing that my husband existed and would find me so I really had to work on developing in this area and exercising my faith. (Mark 11:24) Lastly, you'll want to clear the clutter. This means that if you're hanging on to a guy because you don't want to be lonely but you know he isn't God's best for you, you've got to let him go. In order for God to bless you with His best, you need to be in position. Ask Him to prepare you for your future husband and make the necessary adjustments as the Lord lays it on your heart.
Were ALL Your Prayers Answered, LaRissa?
I'd say 99% of my prayers were answered! Minor things like an eye color that I was fascinated by when I was younger or a specific location in the country may have been a little different but who cares about those things, right? I have a husband for crying out loud! Also, some things I prayed for are things that may manifest later throughout life. Like, having local, godly friends to go on double dates with. (We both moved away from our hometowns and have to start over.) But overall, yes, all my prayers were answered and I believe that that is because I invited the Lord to help me to know what to pray for. So here are just 5 examples of things I specifically asked God for and He answered:
1. I prayed that he has a personal relationship with Jesus, be spirit-filled and live a lifestyle that honors God. (He does and did before he even met me)
2. I prayed that we be physically attracted to one another and that he be taller that 6'0. (He's 6'1 & the mutual attraction is real!)
3. I prayed that he would be a virgin like I was and would wait to kiss me until our wedding day. (He was and he did)
4. I prayed that he would be a great leader for our family and head of our home. (He is)
5. I prayed that he would set and keep boundaries in courtship, make his intentions known to me and ask my dad for his approval to court me and his blessing to marry me. (He did all of those things on his own without me asking or even mentioning it to Him)
It's super awesome to be able to go back to my journal and look at how God answered precisely. If my life were a movie, it would be like my prayers/journal came to life and became this incredible man that I now call my husband. I totally encourage my Christian sisters to do this if you believe God has placed the desire for marriage in your heart. Now is the time to prepare, Sis!
How exciting, one day, you'll look back and see God's goodness in answering your prayers with the manifestation of a godly husband!
Comment below: What qualities are you praying that your future husband has?
Look forward to seeing you in my next post!
So, I'm sure you know by now that I am engaged to the love of my life and I give all glory to God because all things are possible with Him! Now, before I get into the details of how my fiancé proposed, I first want to share my testimony that I found to be an encouragement to many people on social media.
You see this picture (above) which is a beautiful moment of my life. However, what many don’t know is that one year ago, I was completely single. I’d just come out of a very short, self-ordained relationship so I was nursing the wounds of a break up. I remember literally crying out to God and surrendering to Him. I told Him that in the natural, me ever getting married looked almost impossible as at that time I had ZERO prospects. I remember saying “Lord, who in the world is left?! 😩” But I decided to walk by faith and not by sight. I decided to believe what the Bible says. I pursued Jesus with my whole heart because I knew I NEEDED Him. He healed & pruned my heart within days. Less than 3 months later, I met my (now) fiancé! A man who I shared brief exchanges with 5 years earlier & didn’t even realize it. The same man who I spent weeks platonically conversating with in 2016 without even knowing that I was talking to my future husband. So all along, through my occasional tears & frustration, GOD KNEW!! He saw the plans He had for me. He knew what He was about to do in my life. And God sees your whole story too...so trust Him. I promise, it’s worth it! #ItsWorthTheWait
Now for the details! You can clear here:
Have you ever seen a couple where it just looked like one person was head over heels while the other one appeared to be unhappy or indecisive? Have you ever been in a relationship that way? Unfortunately, I can answer yes to both of those questions.
One sided relationships seem to be more common than we may think and sometimes we find ourselves in them without even realizing it. However, no one deserves to experience the feeling of giving 150% while their significant other contributes close to nothing toward the relationship.
Let's look at 6 signs that identify whether a relationship is one sided or not.
Have you ever been in a situation where you were talking to or dating someone and the entire time you were with them you found yourself coming up with reasons for why you should stay? I know I have. In fact there was one time in particular where I found myself seeing tons of red flags and yet I kept trying to move forward. If that relationship was a road then I ran alot of red lights and we all know that red lights mean STOP! So, since they say hindsight is 20/20, I want to share with you what I learned from that past situation.
Preparing For Marriage Side Note:
One of the main things that I learned is the difference between being open and compromising. Throughout my journey of singleness I'd finally arrived to a place where I felt that God was finally preparing me to be a wife. I'd like to point out here that preparing for marriage is often a process. I speak to people who want to be in a relationship or want to meet "The One" but haven't yet taken time to assess whether or not they are "The One" for someone else yet.
For me, this process included investing in my relationship with God, pursuing Jesus, finding contentment in Him, getting rid of marriage as my idol, allowing God to prune me, renewing my mind, etc. Once God and I began the practical aspect of my preparation stage I knew he was dealing with my heart on being open. As a teenager and into early adulthood I had fairytale expectations of what "The One" should be like and I knew God was getting ready to change that.
I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge those who may be grieving during this Christmas season. This brief message is for those who have loved and lost, whether it be the death of a loved one or a hurtful breakup; be encouraged. I know that what you're dealing with is very painful & difficult right now, we've all been there, but I want you to remember that you are loved. As hard as this time is for you, you will make it through. Take your time to grieve and know that this will pass.
The true meaning of Christmas is defined by the birth of Jesus Christ. Isaiah 9:6 says, “For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”
Jesus is your Prince of Peace. During this challenging an painful time, allow Him to be your peace and comfort. Allow Him to create peace during your storm. He came to heal your broken heart. Cry out to Him & let Him restore you.
Surround yourself with happiness & happy people who love you. Think on positive things. Focus on helping & serving others. This is a season of giving and focusing on bringing joy to others will help lessen the pain. Don't allow sorrow to fill your heart. Even during this tough season, you still have blessings to count. A year or two from now, you'll look back on this day & be able to acknowledge the positive changes that have taken place since.
You are not alone during this season. The pain will fade. It will become easier in time.
I'm praying for you.
I'm back with a topic that I've been thinking about for the past 4 months. Without any more delay, I'm going to get right to it.
Have you ever been very interested in someone but got the feeling that the feeling wasn't mutual? Have you ever gotten to know someone but something just felt off? Have you ever dated someone when you knew good and well that you deserved more than what they were willing to give? Throughout the course of my life, I know I can answer "yes" to all three of those questions.
I'm Interested But...
I don't know about you, but I've heard this alot in my past. "Ris, I'm interested but..." I want to encourage those of you who may be in a situation like this now. You can get better. I talk to alot of people who share their stories & issues with me regarding their love lives. I'm writing this for them & anyone like them.
Do. Not. Settle.
Let me explain. I've been in situations time and time again where I felt like the person who had my interest at that time, didn't feel the same way. The funny thing was the behaviors of the men I dealt with evidenced that they weren't completely "sold" on me, and yet somehow I always managed to convince myself otherwise.
Here are just a few examples of those behaviors:
1. As a woman, I always felt like it was left to me to initiate anything (calls, texts, spending time)
2. There was no clarity, I had no idea where things were supposed to be headed with us
3. The guy(s) didn't call me much & I always felt like I was bothering him when I reached out first
4. His text messages consisted of "Hey." and nothing more
5. I always felt like I had to work overtime just to get a conversation out of him
6. He never put in any effort
7. Never pursued me or sought quality time with me
8. I was quite sure that if I stopped reaching out to him, we would never talk again because he wouldn't do anything about it
9. There was never any progression toward a serious relationship
10. He left me feeling confusion and/or anxiety, stress or unhappiness
I even had one situation in which someone told me "I don't know what I want. I'm trying to figure out if I like you or not but why wouldn't I like you? You're amazing so is there something wrong with me?" #ByeFelicia
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